Her wisdom deeply influenced my parenting philosophy. Am I expressing care by my action? "Oh, that sounds rough! I am in the middle of cooking dinner but I can listen if you want to tell me more about it? Am I expressing my confidence in them? "Go ahead, climb! I am right here!" Am I expressing how much I value their independent thinking? "Huh...I didn't see it that way, but explain that to me again..."
Let's not worry about what others think but wrap our hearts around the connection between us and our children. No matter how old they are, they will always need to feel safe enough to dock back home. No matter how successful they are, they may still need to rely on our influence. "May" being the key word...so let's stay connected, just in case.