When tragedies occur, we are all deeply impacted. Children are so intuitive, they can sense our fears and sadness. That is why as parents and significant adults in children's lives, we have to be thoughtful about our reactions. If possible, they do not need to be exposed to the news or our conversations about the event. If they are aware of what has happened, let them know that together, we always do every thing we can to keep them safe. Keep it simple and factual, don't over-explain, only answer the question being asked. They will ask more questions if they need more information. It is okay to say "I don't know" especially if they ask why. Let them know that this is rare, not something that happens every day, like hurricane Sandy.
We have to contain our own fears and anxieties and focus on their sense of safety. Please remember that the school is one of the many places which can help with tough questions. Also, below please find a link to a good resource about how to talk to our children.
How To Talk with Kids about a School Shooting
These are the moments to remember how important it
is to stop what we are doing and listen to them when they want to talk
to us. Love them for who they are. Hug them as often as we can~